We often think that the people who are ostracized in social relationships hurt the most. The pain felt by being excluded by those you thought were your friends or loved ones can be agonizing, and can lead to anger, jealousy, and possible depression.
Ostracism actually physically hurts the victim because emotional pain is triggered via the same neural pathways as physical pain. The pain felt by ostracism is so similar to actual pain that a study has shown that taking Tylenol can actually help relieve the symptoms of the emotional pain of ostracism.
What is less considered is that the people doing the ostracizing also suffer, albeit of their own volition. The very act of ostracizing someone can hurt almost as much as being ostracized. This is a very interesting article that highlights why ostracism hurts all. It also shows why practicing loving kindness as much as possible is not only the right thing to do, but is the best thing for your physical and emotional health:
Those Who Exclude Also Hurt
I cannot believe we even need to ask this question, but I guess we do. Without vital school nutrition programs, there will be an even greater dumbing down of America than there already is. Fight for your children’s lunch programs. Fight for WIC. Fight for our schools. There is too much at stake.
How does nutrition affect children’s school performance? – CNNhttps://apple.news/AA-aQG0BzQmW7vDhdJF4jGA
Are you overcome by the onslaught of disturbing news, fake news, alternative facts, rise in hate crimes, and general political divisiveness that is our toxic post-election atmosphere? Here are a few tips to protect your mental health and avoid media burnout.
- Get off Facebook, Twitter, and other social media as much as possible. If you engage, try to avoid chiming in on political conversations, and focus on the good news over the bad news.
- Hide people in your news feed who cause you anger, worry, or hurt. It isn’t worth the fight or the angst.
- Turn off your notifications on your phone. Especially your news feed.
- Watch one hour of news per day and try to get some news from outside US sources. BBC World News and other international news have a good blend of world news and tend not to focus on the Donald 100% of the time.
- Spend time with your loved ones and pets, away from the television, away from the news headlines, away from it all. Focus on what really matters, and recharge with those you love.
Here is a link to a great article with more helpful advice: Fatigued by the News?
Check out my latest conference poster I presented at American Association of Behavioral and Social Sciences (AABSS) in January in Las Vegas, NV!